WVU defeated Oklahoma that night,to vindicate their loss to Pitt. Did I do my best to communicate the message? Was I as genuine as possible? Watch the video of Coach Stewart's speech and you will understand why Mountaineer fans everywhere have adopted the phrase "Leave No Doubt!Irrespective of my intentions with either action, each one will draw a different response. Instead of destructive language, I now say things like, Ryan, not everyone is judging you. I came up with different questions. In his speech, Stewart told his players to "leave no doubt" in their opponents' minds that "they should not have played the Old Gold and Blue this night! I believed everything that occurred in—and around—my life was because of my actions, especially when it came to how other people felt about me. I have been able to feel confident no matter how people treat me. Maybe the next time you see that person they will be in a different mood and see things in a new light.
Maybe the next time you see that person they will be in a different mood and see things in a new light. Mountaineer fans still consider that humbling of Oklahoma one of the school's greatest victories.
Read this essay and others in our new book, Essential. This never does any good: negative self-talk is demoralizing and destructive. When this happens, I often sit and ask self-loathing, degrading questions—What did I do wrong?